Who’s Your Friend, Jonadab Or Jonathan?

During the closing session of this year’s PENSA Ghana Conference, aptly named the “Transformers Conference,” Apostle Eric Nyamekye, the Chairman of The Church of Pentecost, delivered a thought-provoking message titled “Amnon Had A Friend.” The impact of his words resonated not only within my heart but also among the thousands of youth members gathered across the country for this significant event.

Apostle Nyamekye’s message delved into the friendship between Amnon and Jonadab, as recounted in 2 Samuel 13:1-3.

Amnon, consumed by an uncontrolled amorous affection for his half-sister Tamar, sought counsel from his closest friend, Jonadab, on how to satisfy his wicked desire. Jonadab, described as shrewd and subtle, provided his friend with counsel that led to Amnon raping his sister Tamar.

The repercussions of this reprehensible act were severe: Amnon lost the opportunity to become the next king; enmity arose within the family; and, tragically, Amnon met an early grave—all due to the influence of his friend.

In essence, Amnon’s abominable act was a direct result of the friend he chose. Much like the crab that lost its head due to a bad companion, many young individuals have unwittingly squandered the gifts bestowed upon them by God on the altar of negative company.

A concealed truth about bad friends is that they will lead you into danger and then disappear into thin air, leaving you to face the consequences alone.


  • Where was Jonadab when Amnon faced the consequences of his actions?
  • Where did Ahithophel go when Absalom suffered due to his wicked counsel?
  • Delilah was nowhere to be found when Samson endured his pains.

Conversely, we have witnessed friendships that have had a positive impact on individuals. The camaraderie between David and Jonathan is a prime example worth emulating. Their connection strengthened when David slew Goliath, and their friendship endured despite their differences.

David, a shepherd, and Jonathan, a prince, grew up in distinct environments, yet they became one in spirit. Their friendship was characterised by keeping promises. Jonathan made a covenant with David, saying, “Go in peace, for we have sworn friendship with each other in the name of the Lord” (1 Samuel 20:42).

True friends uphold their words, and this covenant prompted Jonathan to save David’s life when Saul sought to kill him. In return, David fulfilled his promise years later by showing kindness to Mephibosheth, Jonathan’s son, in accordance with their covenant (2 Samuel 9:1).


As we are empowered through the impactful impartation by our spiritual leaders to be unleashed and transform our world, one critical factor hindering our progress is associating with the wrong people. Let Jesus Christ be your friend and a perfect example in your relationships.

Chairman Nyamekye aptly stated, “Don’t just be interested in looking for good friends; be one yourself.” Walk with the wise, for a companion of a fool suffers harm (Proverbs 13:20).

A word to the wise is enough.

Written by Richard Mbelembote (Ntankoro District, Kintampo Area)

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