Have you ever wondered if parenting has a heart? The answer is a resounding “yes.” Parenting has its core, its essence, and its operational center. This vital aspect of parenting is understanding.
Parenting, the art of nurturing a child to fulfill their destined potential, becomes a more achievable and rewarding journey when we grasp its true essence – understanding.
To truly understand someone is to practice love in its most practical form. Many parents are adept at loving their children, but they struggle to put that love into practice. While loving your child is a crucial aspect of parenting, the pinnacle of fulfillment comes when you truly understand your child.
Understanding your child empowers you to nurture their dreams and unlock their hidden potentials. It helps you identify the resources needed for their successful future.
It’s essential to recognise that parenting doesn’t begin with love or providing for basic needs. Some parents shower their children with material comforts but remain absent from their lives. Giving birth is one thing; being a parent is another.
Have you ever wondered why there’s a rise in deviant behavior and a decline in peace? Mahatma Gandhi once said, “To reach real peace in the world, we will have to begin with the children.” The world suffers when children lack attention, especially when they aren’t understood.
Understanding your children is the key to successful parenting. Who is your child to you? What is their temperament? What are their likes and dislikes? These questions must have clear answers in your mind.
Did you know that some children don’t respond well to rebuke? For them, rebuke stifles their development. Instead, correction should be approached differently, as rebuke or insult rarely serves as a suitable corrective tool.
So, how can you understand your child?
1. Observe: Spend time with your child, observe their behavior, reactions, and interactions. This will reveal much about their personality.
2. Be Your Child’s Best Friend: Make your child feel secure, loved, and wanted. Encourage them to open up to you.
3. Spend Quality Time Together: Engage in activities like playing games, cooking, or cleaning together. Quality time strengthens your bond.
4. Praise Wisely: Praise your child for their accomplishments, but avoid overpraising, which can lead to arrogance.
5. Listen: Actively listen to your child to deepen your connection and understanding.
By following these steps and consulting a higher source, such as God, you can unlock the ability to truly understand your children. Remember, as a parent, you represent God to your family, and applying these truths in your home can lead to transformation.
Written by Tonnie Baffoe (Ekroful District, Agona Swedru District)