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INTRODUCTION

Some think the celebration of Christmas is not necessary. Do they have a point? Should a Christian celebrate Christmas? Does it matter if you get Santa Claus paraphernalia and a Christmas tree in your home? Some Christians think that all these are unnecessary and that participation in them amounts to idolatry. Could this be true? By the grace of God, this article will seek to respond to these questions.

I was inspired in December 2015 to contribute to the subject because of the increasing efforts by secularist to deconstruct Christmas; a number of the youth, in their confusion, keep asking such questions as posed above. In this article, therefore, we will look at a brief history of Christmas, Santa Claus, Christmas gifts, and the Christmas tree and go on to examine the questions posed above in the light of the Word of God with these historical accounts in the background. I humbly recommend that you make time to read and add to the insights you may have gathered on the subject over the years.

HISTORY OF CHRISTMAS

Roman pagans first introduced the holiday of Saturnalia, a week-long period of lawlessness celebrated between December 17 and 25. During this period, Roman courts were closed, and Roman law dictated that no one could be punished for damaging property or injuring people during the weeklong celebration. The festival began when Roman authorities chose “an enemy of the Roman people” to represent the “Lord of Misrule.”

Each Roman community selected a victim whom they forced to indulge in food and other physical pleasures throughout the week. At the festival’s conclusion, December 25th, Roman authorities believed they were destroying the forces of darkness by brutally murdering this innocent man or woman. The ancient Greek writer poet and historian Lucian (in his dialogue entitled “Saturnalia”) describes the festival’s observance in his time.

In addition to human sacrifice, he mentions these customs: widespread intoxication; going from house to house while singing naked; rape and other sexual license; and consuming human-shaped biscuits. In the 4th century CE, Christianity imported the Saturnalia festival hoping to take the pagan masses in with it.

Christian leaders succeeded in converting to Christianity large numbers of pagans by promising them that they could continue to celebrate the Saturnalia as Christians. The problem was that there was nothing intrinsically Christian about Saturnalia[1].

To remedy this, Christian leaders named Saturnalia’s concluding day, December 25th, to be Jesus’ birthday. Christmas has since become a Christian holiday honoring the birth of Jesus Christ. Today, Christmas is a time for family and friends to get together and exchange gifts.

The first recorded date of Christmas being celebrated on December 25 was in 336 AD, during the time of the Roman Emperor Constantine (who was the first Christian Roman Emperor); a few years later, Pope Julius I officially declared that the birth of Jesus would be celebrated on the 25th December.

The Church had little success, however, in refining the practices of Saturnalia. As Stephen Nissenbaum, professor of history at the University of Massachusetts, Amherst, writes, “In return for ensuring massive observance of the anniversary of the Savior’s birth by assigning it to this resonant date, the Church for its part tacitly agreed to allow the holiday to be celebrated more or less the way it had always been.”

The earliest Christmas holidays were celebrated by drinking, sexual indulgence, singing naked in the streets (a precursor of modern caroling), etc. The Reverend Increase Mather of Boston observed in 1687 that “the early Christians who first observed the Nativity on December 25 did not do so thinking that Christ was born in that Month, but because the Heathens’ Saturnalia was at that time kept in Rome, and they were willing to have those Pagan Holidays metamorphosed into Christian ones.”[2] [3]

HISTORY OF CHRISTMAS TREES AND CHRISTMAS GIFTS

Just as early Christians recruited Roman pagans by associating Christmas with the Saturnalia, so too worshippers of the Asheira cult and its offshoots were recruited by the Church sanctioning “Christmas Trees”[4]. Pagans had long worshipped trees in the forest or brought them into their homes and decorated them, and this observance was adopted and painted with a Christian veneer by the Church.

Again, in pre-Christian Rome, the emperors compelled their most despised citizens to bring offerings and gifts during the Saturnalia (in December) and Kalends (in January). Later, this ritual expanded to include gift-giving among the general populace. The Catholic Church gave this custom a Christian flavor by re-rooting it in the supposed gift-giving of Saint Nicholas[5]

HISTORY OF SANTA CLAUS

Saint Nicholas was born in Parara, Turkey in 270 CE and later became Bishop of Myra. He died in 345 CE on December 6th. He was only named a saint in the 19th century. In 1087, a group of sailors who idolized Nicholas moved his bones from Turkey to a sanctuary in Bari, Italy. There Nicholas supplanted a female boon-giving deity called The Grandmother, or Pasqua Epiphania, who used to fill the children’s stockings with her gifts. The Grandmother was ousted from her shrine at Bari, which became the center of the Nicholas cult.

Members of this group gave each other gifts during a pageant they conducted annually on the anniversary of Nicholas’ death, December 6.

The Nicholas cult spread north until it was adopted by German and Celtic pagans. These groups worshipped a pantheon led by Woden –their chief god and the father of Thor, Balder, and Tiw. Woden had a long, white beard and rode a horse through the heavens one evening each autumn. When Nicholas merged with Woden, he shed his Mediterranean appearance, grew a beard, mounted a flying horse, rescheduled his flight for December, and donned heavy winter clothing. In a bid for pagan adherents in Northern Europe, the Catholic Church adopted the Nicholas cult and taught that he did (and they should) distribute gifts on December 25th instead of December 6th. In 1809, the novelist Washington Irving wrote a satire of Dutch culture entitled “Knickerbocker History”.

The satire refers several times to the white-bearded, flying-horse-riding Saint Nicholas using his Dutch name, Santa Claus. Dr. Clement Moore, a professor at Union Seminary, read Knickerbocker History, and in 1822 he published a poem based on the character Santa Claus: “It was the night before Christmas, when all through the house, not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse. The stockings were hung by the chimney with care, in the hope that Saint Nicholas soon would be there…” Moore innovated by portraying a Santa with eight reindeer who descended through chimneys.

The Bavarian illustrator Thomas Nast almost completed the modern picture of Santa Claus. From 1862 through 1886, based on Moore’s poem, Nast drew more than 2,200 cartoon images of Santa for Harper’s Weekly. Before Nast, Saint Nicholas had been pictured as everything from a stern-looking bishop to a gnome-like figure in a frock. Nast also gave Santa a home at the North Pole, his workshop filled with elves, and his list of the good and bad children of the world. In 1931, the Coca-Cola Corporation contracted the Swedish commercial artist Haddon Sundblom to create a coke-drinking Santa. Sundblom modeled his Santa on his friend Lou Prentice, chosen for his cheerful, chubby face. The corporation insisted that Santa’s fur-trimmed suit be bright, Coca-Cola red. This is how the present portrait of Santa Claus came about.

THE GOSPEL AND CHRISTMAS

What have we gathered out of history up to this point? The elements in the present Christian annual commemoration dubbed Christmas have a pagan origin – the festival was Saturnalia changed into Christmas; worshipped tree imported as Christmas tree; and Santa Claus imported as the source of gifts given during Christmas. Again, we realize that 25th December was an arbitrary date chosen to closely coincide with the original birthday of Jesus Christ which remains unknown precisely except He was born in the year 3 BCE – the exact day and month still unknown. This is the bare fact. One may ask, if all the elements of Christmas have no original roots in Christianity but rather paganism, why do we need to position the birth of Christ on 25th December and celebrate it as Christmas? I seek to respond to this question through the points below: 1.

SATAN CREATES NOTHING; HE ONLY CONTAMINATES CREATION

Satan is not the Creator. God Almighty- Yahweh- is the Creator of all things. Everything was created by the Word through the Word for the Word. Jesus is the Word of God. Nothing belongs to Satan; all things are for Christ. What does this imply? Satan only steals, kills, and destroys the things God has created for His glory. Festive celebrations described as pagan or evil were not created by the Lord to be pagan. It is the devil who deceives humanity to use God’s creation to honor himself – thus defiling something that had been created originally with the glory of God in view.

For in him (Christ), all things were created: things in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or powers or rulers or authorities; all things have been created through him and for him – Colossians 1:16 In the beginning was the Word and the Word was with God and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. Through him all things were made; without him, nothing was made that has been made – John 1:1-3 For from him and through him and for him are all things. To him be the glory forever! Amen – Romans 11:36 2.

ALL STOLEN THINGS BY SATAN MUST BE REDEEMED FOR THE LORD JESUS CHRIST

It was very good that the Early Church made attempts to position Christ at the center of pagan celebrations. We could see that unfortunately the positioning was not properly done in the beginning. When that happens, syncretism is the result; the people take a bit of Christ and a bit of the initial pagan elements and mix the two. This phenomenon can happen anytime we improperly introduce Christ into a situation. The purpose of the coming of Christ was to pay the price to redeem all stolen things in the devil’s possession beginning from Adam. Jesus did this by paying for the sins of humanity; shedding His blood as the ‘reagent’ that re-births things back to God and resurrecting from death to prove that things that were dead due to sin can now be brought back to life.

All things were created through the Word; got stolen and contaminated by the devil and must now be re-created (born again) through the Word. It is not only human beings that need to be re-created (or born again) but indeed all things from cultures, music, politics, festivals, etc. Something or a person gets born again when Christ is positioned at the center of its existence. This was what the medieval church sought to do when it attempted to convert pagan culture back to Christ. For God in all his fullness was pleased to live in Christ, and through him, God reconciled everything to himself. He made peace with everything in heaven and on earth by means of Christ’s blood on the cross.

This includes you who were once far away from God. You were his enemies, separated from him by your evil thoughts and actions. Yet now he has reconciled you to himself through the death of Christ in his physical body. As a result, he has brought you into his own presence, and you are holy and blameless as you stand before him without a single fault – Colossians 1:19-21

This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun! And all of this is a gift from God, who brought us back to himself through Christ. And God has given us the task of reconciling people to him. For God was in Christ, reconciling the world to himself, no longer counting people’s sins against them. And he gave us this wonderful message of reconciliation. So, we are Christ’s ambassadors; God is making his appeal through us. We speak for Christ when we plead, “Come back to God!” – 2 Corinthians 5:17-20 3.

FESTIVALS OR NO FESTIVALS, WHAT MATTERS IS CHRIST

God does not judge anyone based on what he/she celebrates or doesn’t celebrate. What matters is Christ as Lord over the life of a person, a people, a culture, or a nation. Some people think that by celebrating a certain festival or wearing a certain dress or eating a certain food, they sin. No! Not so in Christ. In Christ, what matters in all we do, eat, say, or celebrate must be to the glory and praise of Jesus as Lord. Judging your spirituality by what you celebrate or not is a shallow indicator. God judges us by how much we honor Christ as Lord in aspects of our lives ‘You were dead because of your sins and because your sinful nature was not yet cut away.

Then God made you alive with Christ, for he forgave all our sins. He canceled the record of the charges against us and took it away by nailing it to the cross. In this way, he disarmed the spiritual rulers and authorities. He shamed them publicly by his victory over them on the cross. So don’t let anyone condemn you for what you eat or drink, or for not celebrating certain holy days or new moon ceremonies or Sabbaths. For these rules are only shadows of the reality yet to come. And Christ himself is that reality.

Don’t let anyone condemn you by insisting on pious self-denial or the worship of angels, saying they have had visions about these things. Their sinful minds have made them proud, and they are not connected to Christ, the head of the body. For he holds the whole body together with its joints and ligaments, and it grows as God nourishes it. You have died with Christ, and he has set you free from the spiritual powers of this world. So why do you keep on following the rules of the world, such as, “Don’t handle! Don’t taste! Don’t touch!”? Such rules are mere human teachings about things that deteriorate as we use them. These rules may seem wise because they require strong devotion, pious self-denial, and severe bodily discipline. But they provide no help in conquering a person’s evil desires’- Colossians 2:13-23 4.

CHRISTMAS OR NOT, CHRIST IS BORN

One can choose to celebrate Christmas or not. What does it even mean to celebrate Christmas- to buy a Christmas tree, buy Santa Claus caps for kids to visit friends and share love, or to go to Church and remember Christ?

What is important is that ONCE UPON A TIME GOD BECAME HUMAN BEING IN THE PERSON OF JESUS CHRIST TO SAVE HIS CREATION FROM SIN AND THE DEVIL.

You can choose any day to remember this; it could be in any month. However, positioning it on December 25 to coincide with other ‘pagan’ celebrations affords us, Christians, a great ‘marketing’ opportunity to displace the devil from celebration to reposition Christ and the center of such celebrations.

All celebrations and festivities must be redeemed for Christ. At Christmas, use the opportunity to demonstrate the love of God to people as a bridge to introduce Christ into their lives. Every good and perfect gift is from the Lord and not Santa Claus; the greatest of all such gifts is the gift of the Lord Jesus Christ who is God born as a human being to bring salvation to us. In Jesus Christ, we find the Mighty GOD, the Everlasting FATHER, the Wonderful COUNSELOR, and the Prince of Peace. For a child is born to us, a son is given to us. The government will rest on his shoulders. And he will be called: Wonderful Counsellor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace – Isaiah 9:6 For in Christ lives all the fullness of God in a human body – Colossians 2:9 So, the Word became human and made his home among us. He was full of unfailing love and faithfulness. And we have seen his glory, the glory of the Father’s one and only Son – John 1:14

CONCLUSION

We have seen that the origin of Christmas is pagan. We have also seen that the things we call pagan are not for the devil. All things were created by the Lord; Satan only contaminates to claim ownership. We have thus seen that the purpose Jesus Christ came to earth was to REDDEM all things back to God. Thus, as Christians, whether at Christmas or any day, our mandate is to live for Christ as Lord and also to introduce Christ into the lives of other people, cultures, celebrations, elements, etc. Jesus Christ was born in a manger at a date unknown except it was in 3BC. What matters is not the dispute over the date but for Christ to be born into the heart, or the “manger” of everything under the sun.

This is the centrality of all our existence as Christians – to spread this gospel of reconciliation. In this Christmas, let us not forget the relevance; we must do all things to the glory of the Lord Jesus. At the end of Christmas, Christ should have been born into the heart of someone because of the love of Christ you demonstrated to the person.

Not only on December 25 but consider every day as Christmas all year round. God bless us all

So, whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God – 1 Corinthians 10:31

[1] The first mention of a Nativity feast appears in the Philocalian calendar, a Roman document from 354 CE, which lists December 25th as the day of Jesus’ birth

[2] Increase Mather, A Testimony against Several Profane and Superstitious Customs, Now Practiced by Some in New England (London, 1687), p. 35

[3] Stephen Nissenbaum, The Battle for Christmas: A Cultural History of America’s Most Cherished Holiday, New York: Vintage Books, 1997, p. 4

[4] Clement Miles, Christmas Customs and Traditions: Their History and Significance, New York: Dover Publications, 1976, pp. 178, 263-271

[5] Miles, pp. 276-279

Written by Dr. Theresah Fianko-Larbi

As the holiday season unfolds, let’s embark on a journey to explore the profound distinctions between “CHRISTMAS” and “X-MAS(S).” Rooted in history and language, these terms carry significant meanings that go beyond the surface of festive celebrations.

• CHRISTMAS: A Divine Fusion:

The term “CHRISTMAS” intricately weaves together “Christ” and “Mass,” culminating in a celebration that transcends time and tradition. Its origins trace back to a pivotal moment in history – the birth of Jesus Christ.

• CHRIST: The Anointed One (Hebrew):

“But you, Bethlehem Ephrathah, though you are small among the clans of Judah, out of you will come for me one who will be ruler over Israel, whose origins are from of old, from ancient times.” (Micah 5:2)

• MAS: A Gathering of People (Greek):

“…For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” (Matthew 18:20)

DECODING THE ESSENCE OF CHRISTMAS

• “CHRISTMAS” encapsulates the divine message of “The Gathering of People of Christ,” echoing the unity and fellowship of Christ’s followers.

• X-MASS: A Distorted Reflection:

Contrastingly, “X-MASS” emerged as a deviation, seeking to diminish the spiritual resonance of the celebration.

• The “X” Factor: A Symbolic Absence:

“For there are many rebellious people, full of meaningless talk and deception…” (Titus 1:10)

PROMINENT VOICES ON THE MATTER:

As we navigate the delicate nuances between these terms, let’s draw inspiration from the words of influential figures and biblical teachings.

• C.S. Lewis: “You can make anything by writing.” – C.S. Lewis

Reflecting on Lewis’s words, let us be mindful of the impact our language can have on the essence of CHRISTMAS.

• Pope Francis: “Christmas is joy, religious joy, an inner joy of light and peace.” – Pope Francis

Embracing the true meaning of CHRISTMAS, Pope Francis emphasizes the inner joy and spiritual significance embedded in the celebration.

• Apostle Eric Nyamekye: The Chairman of The Church of Pentecost Worldwide, Apostle Eric Nyamekye, in a Christmas Message in 2022, expressed grave concern about the clandestine move by some world leaders and powerful groups to suppress the celebration of Christmas, marking the birth of Jesus Christ, the Saviour of the world.

According to the revered cleric, “Satan is jealous about Christmas, so he is doing everything possible to expunge the name of Christ from Christmas and make it an ordinary holiday.

A CALL TO PRECISION AND SPIRITUAL REFLECTION:

This festive season, let’s share the message of “MERRY CHRISTMAS” with an awareness of its biblical roots and spiritual richness. Avoiding the inadvertent substitution with “X-MASS,” we honor the divine unity that this season symbolizes.

In the tapestry of holiday greetings, let our words resonate with the true essence of CHRISTMAS, echoing the unity, joy, and peace that Christ’s birth brings to our hearts.

Written by Daniel Kwabena Mantey

Your source of power will determine how far you can last or operate. Uninterrupted power that produces light will give you lasting illumination at your house, workplace, and even in the community. We are in a world where we do not wrestle against flesh and blood but rather fight rulers of darkness, principalities, etc. This means to overcome these rulers, you need a higher source that will give you the power to eliminate them.

The first major blackout in New York State occurred on November 9, 1965. This event is known as the Great Northeast Blackout and affected a large portion of the northeastern United States and parts of Canada. The blackout was caused by a series of equipment failures and human errors in the power grid. During the 1965 blackout, the Statue of Liberty did not go completely dark. The statue has its own separate electrical system, and while it experienced a partial loss of power, it did not blackout entirely. It’s worth noting that there have been other blackouts in New York State and the surrounding areas over the years, but the 1965 blackout was one of the most significant and widespread in the region’s history.

This story of the New York blackout and the Statue of Liberty having stable and different sources of power makes us aware that we should always have a constant and stable source.

WHO IS THE SOURCE?

Elohim is the source, the one who created the whole universe. The giver of life, as stated in Psalms 36:9, “You are the giver of life. Your light lets us enjoy life.”

We shall learn about a man in the Bible who, at one point, was connected to God as his main source but later was disconnected by his actions and disobedience.

Samson was one of the judges of Israel and was known for his incredible strength. However, he lost his focus on God as his source when he was tempted by Delilah.

Delilah was a woman who was paid by the Philistines to discover the secret of Samson’s strength. Samson eventually revealed to her that his strength came from his long hair, and Delilah betrayed him by cutting his hair while he was asleep.

Samson lost his focus on God as his source and relied on his physical abilities, leading to his capture and eventual death. The lesson we can learn from his mistake is that we should always rely on God as our source and not on our abilities.

One of the key factors that led to Samson’s mistake was his pride and self-reliance. He had become so confident in his own strength that he failed to recognize that it came from God, not from himself. This is a danger that we all face: the temptation to rely on our own abilities and resources rather than trusting in God’s provision and strength.

We should always be humble and recognize that any talents or abilities we possess are gifts from God. We should also seek to cultivate a deep and abiding trust in God, knowing that He is our source of strength and power. As we rely on Him, we can be confident that He will give us the wisdom, guidance, and strength we need to overcome any obstacle or challenge that we may face.

HOW THEN CAN WE CONNECT TO THE SOURCE?

Constant daily devotion. Devotions should be observed both at the family and personal levels to help communicate with your service provider, that is, God. By doing that, you are constantly ready to combat the devices of the devil. We are saved from sinning when we constantly have our devotions. “David said, your word have I hidden in my heart that I may not sin against you.” As we connect with the source through constant devotions, God, who is the source, guides and directs our path. The Psalmist says, and I quote, “Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light to guide my path.”

Fasting and Prayer. This activity helps us to be constantly on autopilot with our source. It helps to be sharp in both spirit and physical. Our spirit antennal is always ready to hear from the source and is given enough strength to carry on the journey. It also humbles us as we fast, wait, and pray unto God.

SOME LESSONS TO LEARN FROM THE STATUE OF LIBERTY

Resilience in Adversity: The Statue of Liberty, standing tall and illuminated even during a blackout, symbolizes resilience in the face of adversity. It could be seen as a reminder that certain institutions, values, or symbols can endure challenges and remain steadfast.

Preparedness and Redundancy: The fact that the Statue of Liberty had its own separate electrical system might suggest the importance of having backup plans and redundancy in critical systems. This can be a lesson for individuals and organizations to be prepared for unexpected events.

Symbolic Significance: The Statue of Liberty is a powerful symbol of freedom and endurance. Its ability to remain partially lit during a blackout could be seen as a metaphor for the enduring spirit of liberty and the values it represents, even in challenging times.

Hope and Inspiration: In a symbolic sense, the Statue of Liberty not going completely dark during the blackout could be interpreted as a symbol of hope and inspiration. It can serve as a reminder that, even in difficult times, certain ideals and principles can continue to shine as beacons.

CONCLUSIONS

Our only source as Christians is God. We do not have any other source apart from the original source. Men will fail us when we rely on them as our source. But God is forever. We must eliminate pride and constantly be in communion with God.

Written by P/Overseer Solomon Boadi

In the grand tapestry of The Church of Pentecost’s organizational history, marked by my own personal observation and experience from my participation in six previous management and staff retreats since my entry into the organization in 2016, the recently concluded 2023 retreat emerges as an ultimate pièce de résistance, orchestrating an unparalleled crescendo of joy.

This year’s retreat unfolded with a medley of fun-filled moments, nostalgic indoor games, a harmonious carols night session, and probably the most remarkable coup de grâce – a surprise barbecue (kyinkyinga) party that set the stage for an unforgettable experience.

Management’s strategic effort to infuse these moments with mirthful camaraderie was akin to conducting a symphony, harmonizing diverse elements to bring a staff body of diverse backgrounds together.

Against the backdrop of laughter and shared joy, the three prominent figures of the Church; the Chairman, the General Secretary, and the International Missions Director, added a touch of celestial grace to the festivities by honoring staff with the dignity of their presence, making the experience all the more priceless.

Amidst the revelry, a profound truth emerged: it doesn’t take much to elicit smiles and forge connections. Management’s thoughtful orchestration of this year’s retreat served as a gentle reminder that in the realm of organizational harmony, the subtlety of shared joy often speaks louder than grand gestures.

As we extend our heartfelt gratitude to our visionary leaders for this remarkable experience, we cannot help but reflect on the transformative power of such an unprecedented experience. Beyond mere entertainment, the retreat served as a catalyst for fostering a sense of belonging and community among both management and staff.

Indeed, in this ephemeral oasis of joy, even amidst personal sorrow – I, whose mother currently lies cold in the mortuary, awaiting to be sent on her final journey to her maker, momentarily set aside the weight of grief to revel in the collective merriment. Yes, the retreat proved to be a respite from life’s solemn cadence.

As the saying goes in Twi, “Onipa y3 ade3 aa os3 ayeyi”, literally translated to mean “He who does a good deed deserves praise,” Management deserves praise for treating us to such a memorable period of merriment and fraternal harmony.

Written by Elder Emmanuel Frimpong (Executive Assistant, Obuasi Area)

INTRODUCTION

The Church of Pentecost takes immense pride in its well-established structures, systems, and processes that steer the course of the Church’s activities. The noteworthy successes achieved by the Church are a testament to the intentional internal activities set up by the founding fathers and continuously improved upon by the current leadership. These activities are designed to foster progress, cultivate excellence, and propel growth. One such vital internal activity is the Head Office Management and Staff Retreats.

WHO ARE HEAD OFFICE STAFF AND MANAGEMENT

Within the Church’s framework, there exists a category of individuals who are the unsung heroes, the backbone of the global mission of the Church – the Head Office management and staff. Though often not in the limelight, they play a strategic role in implementing the Church’s vision over the years.

These professional Christians, including ministers of The Church, are members and officers employed and/or seconded to the Head office of The Church of Pentecost and its affiliates. They provide strategic, tactical, and operational services, enabling the fulfillment of goals and objectives set by the frontline officers – the ministers of the gospel in the field.

THE REFRESHING TIMES OF HEAD OFFICE RETREATS

Given the pivotal role these individuals play in advancing the Church’s mission over time and recognizing that we exist within a spiritual ecosystem, a sacred convocation is called for at the end of every year. This gathering is known as the Head Office Management and Staff Retreats, a time set aside for participants to refresh, revamp, and retreat to prepare for the upcoming year.

These retreats are more than just events; they are invigorating moments of learning, bonding, and recreation. In this reflection, I’ll share my insights based on the experience of the 2023 edition.

LEARNING

In the school of the spirit, where growth is continuous, the Head Office retreats create an atmosphere of learning. The chaplaincy and organizers meticulously plan each retreat, ensuring a structured timetable aimed at personal and corporate development. This year’s retreat covered a comprehensive blend of topics, including understanding the leadership equation, fostering effective office relationships, and emphasizing the importance of health management, stress avoidance, physical activities, and future financial planning, including retirement preparations.

BONDING

The Head Office management and staff retreat serve as moments for bonding and building chemistry among colleagues. Whether in shared rooms, at dining tables, or in the main auditorium, the warmth among participants transcends the chilly air conditioning. As staff members often work independently in distinct offices, the retreat provides a rare opportunity for personal interactions, resulting in warm embraces, joyful laughter, and shouts of elation upon reuniting with colleagues.

RECREATION

An exciting addition to this year’s retreat was the inclusion of indoor games and a carols night, bringing a delightful twist to the event. Participants engaged in ludu, oware, and ampe, with the General Secretary, Apostle Samuel Gyau Obuobi, and the Director of the Counselling Ministry, Apostle Dr. Phillip Osei-Korsah, facing off in a spirited competition. The highlight was the carols night, featuring soulful renditions by staff members. The evening was complemented by a delectable spread of grilled gizzard, chicken, plantain chips, asana, and fruit juice, creating an early Christmas atmosphere for the COP Headquarters.

CONCLUSION

Reflecting on the last few days of retreating at the Pentecost Convention Centre as a Head Office staff, I couldn’t help but express gratitude for the visionary leadership that organizes these events annually. The careful curation of these retreats, under the guidance of our fathers, ensures they remain refreshing, revamping, and resourceful.

Long live The Church of Pentecost!

Long live the Headquarters Management and Staff!

Long live the body of Christ!

Written by Pastor Kwasi Asante ANNOR (General Manager, PENT TV)

In today’s interconnected world, Christianity is discovering innovative ways to reach people through modern technology and media. A growing movement within the church is the emergence of “media evangelists” – Christians who utilise radio, television, movies, the internet, and social media to spread the gospel message.

Noteworthy among these evangelists in Ghana are Apostle Eric Nyamekye, Apostle Samuel Gyau Obuobi, Archbishop Charles Agyinasare, Pastor William Boachie-Ansah, Pastor Emmanuel Kyei Boate, Pastor Elvis Agyemang, and some prominent ministers in The Church of Pentecost (CoP).

At the forefront of this movement is Pastor Greg Durel, a dynamic preacher with a passion for merging Christianity and technology. Through his website, podcast, and social media channels, Durel engages millions of followers with his upbeat, relevant sermons and encouragement.

“Jesus commissioned us to go into all the world and share the good news,” says Durel. “With today’s technology, we have more ways than ever to fulfil that calling.”

Durel primarily focuses on reaching young people, a demographic he says feels disconnected from traditional Christianity. His podcast, “Good News Daily,” provides inspiring stories and devotions in a fast-paced, high-production style that appeals to millennials and Gen Z.

“I want to speak the language of this generation,” explains Durel. “The message doesn’t change, but the delivery system must adapt.”

Critics argue that media evangelism oversimplifies complex theology and reduces Christianity to feel-good platitudes. However, Durel believes he’s bringing timeless biblical principles into the 21st century.

Another angle is that some churches and ministers in our country, Ghana, have developed a significant interest in the media space and are making good use of it. Some prominent figures include Apostle Eric Nyamekye, Chairman of the CoP, who, through his vision, has expanded the media interest in The Church of Pentecost. Gallant ministers such as Pastors William Boachie-Ansah, Emmanuel Kyei Boate, and Kwasi Asante Annor (General Manager, Pent TV) spend their time defending the Christian faith, motivating others with the gospel whenever they visit their social media handles.

Through their active participation on social media, the gospel reaches a larger audience beyond the church premises, saving several perishing souls. Our responsibility as Christians is to proclaim the gospel, and as the world keeps changing, technology takes its place and rules the world.

“At its core, Christianity is about salvation, hope, and having a relationship with Jesus Christ,” he says. “We can communicate those essentials in fresh ways without compromising the truth.”

As media evangelists like Durel gain more traction, Christianity is poised to experience a new wave of growth and engagement. Believers worldwide are excited to see how God will continue using modern communication tools to bring the life-changing message of the gospel to every nation.

In summary, never forget to appreciate the media personnel in the church. If it’s about gadgets, the church should provide them. If it’s about motivation, let the church inspire them to work, remembering that motivation is about money and powerful words. Furthermore, for seminars, invite resource personnel to train the team to deliver good content on social media and reach a larger audience.

Report by Dennis Quaicoe (Editor-Librarian, PENSA-Pentecost University)

Too many apprentices (subordinates) claim the title and portfolio of leadership and prematurely seek exposure before their time, breeding a generation of unprepared, inexperienced, and immature leaders. Sadly, everyone claims to be a leader instead of following, and this situation ruefully cuts across almost all sectors of life: from the clergy to politicians, the business arena to education institutions, through the judicial service to the legislature, etc.

There is a serious leadership crisis in our time. It’s quite alarming how individuals and groups easily break away from institutions, superiors, and organisations prematurely to establish their own and become bosses overnight, with the notion of being their own bosses and not under any superior. In fact, the spirit of Elisha and Ruth in waiting and seeking nourishment, guidance, and experience under leaders is lacking.

Whether born a leader or desiring to lead, there is a great necessity to learn to follow before leading at the appropriate time. This cannot be entirely said of today’s generation, which has been blinded by the quest to lead by all means.

In this article, I shall use David and his mighty men as a case study, referencing 2 Samuel 23:8-39. Our interest shall be focused on the three mighty men of David and then draw meaningful lessons on their remarkable roles in David’s administration behind the scenes.

King David has undoubtedly been seen as one of the greatest kings in Israel. His account is rich with stories of triumph, adversity, and spiritual connection, making him a central figure in Biblical history. When David is mentioned, true leadership comes to mind.

David’s mighty men were a group of exceptional warriors and loyal supporters who played a crucial role in the life of King David, as recorded in the Bible. As David faced challenges and enemies, a group of warriors rallied around him. These individuals demonstrated extraordinary courage and loyalty. In the annals of biblical history, King David’s reign is not only marked by his own exploits but also by the indomitable spirit and valour of his loyal warriors. These extraordinary individuals played pivotal roles in securing David’s throne and establishing a legacy of courage and devotion.

A TRIUMVIRATE OF VALOR – MEN BEHIND THE SCENES

David’s Three Mighty Men, comprising Adino, Eleazar, and Shammah, were not mere soldiers but exemplars of courage and fortitude.

Josheb-Basshebeth, also called Adino the Eznite, was credited with single-handedly slaying 800 enemies in a remarkable display of valour (2 Samuel 23:8).

Eleazar, undaunted by a battlefield withdrawal, stood firm and secured a victory against the Philistines when others faltered (2 Samuel 23:9-10). He fought alongside David against the Philistines and played a critical role in securing victory.

Shammah, the third in this triumvirate, defended a field of lentils against Philistine forces, demonstrating his unwavering commitment to protecting what mattered, no matter how trivial it seemed when others had retreated, showcasing the steadfast commitment that defined David’s Mighty Men (2 Samuel 23:11-12).

A BOND BEYOND DUTY

The allegiance of these mighty men to David went beyond mere duty; it was a bond forged in the crucible of shared trials and victories. Their loyalty is highlighted in various episodes, such as when David longed for water from the well of Bethlehem. The Three Mighty Men, recognising the significance of their leader’s desire, braved enemy lines to bring him the water he desired, risking their lives to fulfil David’s longing (2 Samuel 23:13-17).

SACRIFICE BEYOND DUTY

The narratives of Adino, Eleazar, and Shammah offer timeless lessons in leadership and sacrifice. Their commitment to David, their feats of valour, and their willingness to go to great lengths for the sake of their king exemplify the qualities of true warriors and devoted subjects. These stories serve as a source of inspiration for leaders and individuals alike, emphasising the importance of courage, loyalty, and selflessness in the pursuit of a noble cause.

LOYALTY IN ADVERSITY

The Mighty Men were not merely skilled in combat; they embodied loyalty in the face of adversity. Whether confronting enemies on the battlefield or standing by David during his fugitive years, their commitment was unwavering, contributing significantly to David’s survival and ultimate ascent to the throne.

NOT JUST SERVICE BUT LEGACY

The stories of David’s Mighty Men resonate beyond the pages of biblical history, offering timeless lessons on courage, camaraderie, and the indispensable role of loyalty in pursuing a noble cause. Their exploits highlight the importance of a dedicated and unified team in overcoming challenges and achieving victory.

LEADERSHIP IS NOT AN ISLAND

It’s said, “If you want to go fast, go alone, but if you want to go far, go with others.” Again, Tom Peters once said, “Leaders don’t create followers; they create leaders.” A remarkable leadership quality identified about David is how harmoniously he works with subordinates and grows them into leadership. The fear of today’s leader raising a subordinate into leadership is the fact that the subordinate may outgrow him and take over. I foresee this as one of the causes of subordinates breaking away. In as much as David experienced many assassinations from subordinates, so did he experience much success and defense from loyal subordinates. If one fears going all out regardless, he is not a leader in the first place. It’s of great essence to create loyal leaders; it will pay you off eventually in the end.

SELFLESS SACRIFICE

It’s quite amazing the significant role these men performed in David’s administration. Yet little is said about them, but the most touching part is how behind the scenes, they contributed immensely but did not claim glory nor seek to betray David along the way. Every organisation, institution, or nation must seek such kind of subordinates. It must also be the desire of every individual who aspires for leadership to embrace such an attitude, qualities, and desire. That’s the only way to successfully attain leadership.

CONCLUSION

In the tapestry of David’s reign, the threads woven by his Three Mighty Men are vivid and enduring. Their valour, loyalty, and sacrifices have left an indelible mark on biblical history, embodying the timeless qualities of courage and devotion. As we reflect on their stories, we find inspiration to face our challenges with unwavering resolve and stand firm in loyalty to those we serve. The legacy of David’s Three Mighty Men is a testament to the enduring power of courage and commitment in the face of adversity.

At this point, it must be noted that every leader’s strength and success are proportional to the strength, loyalty, sacrifice, and commitment of his inner men. No leader leads in isolation; you need selfless and devoted mighty men to go beyond boundaries and break limits.

Written by Elder Patrick Turkson (Asenemaso District Youth Ministry Leader)

While watching the live telecast of the recently held “Tema-Ashaiman for Christ” crusade on Pent TV, as many people stepped forward to receive the workings of the Lord Jesus Christ in diverse needs, the Holy Spirit gave me an intuition into these workings as Elder Seth Yaw Peasah led them during the divine healings and prayer sessions.

These are what the Lord laid on my heart as Elder Peasah spoke about virtues that went out from the Lord Jesus unto his audience and those who approached him (Jesus) for diverse miracles. The workings are thus termed because the Lord Jesus said in John 5:17 that, “The Father is always at work to this very day, and I too am working.” Broadly speaking, we have two kinds of this work – the teaching and power ministrations of Jesus – Acts 1:1b.

I wish to dwell on the power workings of Christ for the sake of this presentation. These workings can be referred to as the different approaches the Lord Jesus administers healings, exorcisms, etc. to his followers in the confirmation of the written or spoken Word of God. I wish to also emphasise that what I am about to share with us may not be the only definite ways Christ channels out his workings. There may be other forms, for we know that our God works in mysterious ways. Meanwhile, the four types of power workings of Christ are discussed as follows;

SILENT WORKINGS

This is an unannounced encounter and breakthrough that takes place in the life of a person that the Lord touches during prayers or declarations. Silent workings play a vital role during prayer encounters. Here, many of the congregants at any gathering in Jesus’ name may receive this touch of God in the Spirit. This also means that God is always working behind the scenes for the well-being of all who call on him and come to him.

The Word of God is Spirit (John 6:63); it works in the spirit realms first before manifesting in the physical realm. When the Lord works in the heart of the individual, the process is usually silent, but the outcome becomes dumbfounding – Matthew 15:28. Sometimes it is worrying to hear some congregants say at prayer meetings, “The man of God did not touch us,” and others also usually say, “We did not feel anything.” Beloved, be encouraged that the Spirit and the Word of God are at work in you, and silently the fruits will be evident in you too.

Just as a garden plant sprouts, grows, and branches out to maturity, and no one sees how this growth happens, exactly so is how our Lord does silently heal us when we approach him for mercy. I speak under the unction of the Spirit of God, that may God silently touch you and make you whole, in Jesus’ name!

SWIFT WORKINGS

This is a quick move of the power of God over the life of the individual waiting for a miracle or a change of whatever circumstance that might be taking place in his/her life. It happens so fast, especially for new believers and people with great faith – Luke 7:2-10, Mark 10:52.

In certain dire situations and especially on the brink of death circumstances, it may need the swift intervention of God for a touch of salvage, quick restoration, and such a speedy grant of grace from above. In Mark 1:30-31, some of the disciples of Jesus had to immediately inform him of the fever of Simon’s mother-in-law who was down on bed. Jesus immediately went to her, took her by the hand, and she was made whole. Praise the Lord!

Newborn babes in the faith usually receive this kind of grace from the Lord. The reason is for them to grow in their newfound faith with the Lord – Psalm 8:2. For instance, when a sister is in Church for a few months or years and she gets the open door for her marriage, etc., do not envy her but praise God for the fulfillment of the Word of the Lord.

On the other hand, a believer with great faith can also receive this kind of workings from the Lord Jesus. The Lord Jesus usually says, “Your faith has made you whole… Mark 10:52, Luke 8:48, 17:19, etc. With faith and especially the great kind of faith, anything is immediately possible! May the Church of God raise young believers to become possessors of this great faith, O Lord increase our faith!

STRONG WORKINGS

This is an active strong power that comes out from the Lord Jesus to effect healings in some sort of chronic situations in individuals hoping for encounters – Mark 5:30.

The Lord God is described in Psalm 24:8 as, “Who is this King of glory? The LORD strong and mighty, the LORD mighty in battle.” It is stronger circumstances that require a stronger God to deal with them. We must be certain in our minds that there is nothing impossible to the Lord. It must be noted herein that the kind of virtue that went out from the Lord Jesus to heal the woman with the issue of blood for 12 years was a strong working power – Mark 5:30.

Beloved, it is the same kind of power from the Spirit of God that Jesus calmed the raging sea (Mark 4:37-41). No amount of strong force of disturbance, sickness, instability, chaos, and torment can ever stand before the Living Jesus who has all power strongly vested in His Name – Luke 10:17.

Luke 8:27-33 reveals a stronghold of lunatism called legion that was dwelling in one man. O what a state of destruction this man would be?! That very day, Jesus met him on the shores of Gerasenes and cast out all the 6000 demons from this man, glory be to Jesus! Usually, this kind of exorcism of demons will be fierce and such a sight to behold – the clash of two powers between God and the kingdom of darkness bringing deliverance to the soul of this demon-possessed man. Hallelujah!

SPECTACULAR WORKINGS

Usually what seems impossible to every normal human being and it turns out to be possible will bring an awe before the sight of men. For instance, when the blind suddenly sees, the lame walks, the dead brought back to life, the leper is cleansed, the hunchback is healed, etc. Above all, when the sinner repents and receives Jesus as Lord and Saviour – Matthew 11:5.

In the District Minister’s Report Format of The Church of Pentecost, there is a section called Spectacular Events, which records events of rare healings and awesome miracles. Some of such will be, for instance, a barren woman gives birth after 38 years of marriage, a man born blind sees after 30 years, a dead person comes back to life after 3 days, and the list goes on. When you have such great faith in the Lord and have persisted in waiting for the spectacular sign and wonder from the Lord Jesus, anything becomes possible!

Jesus told Nathaniel the disciple in John 1:50-51 that, “…you will see greater things than that… and the angels of God descending and ascending on the Son of Man.” I would want to call such an incident a spectacular event. After the outpouring of the Blessed Holy Spirit on the Disciples, the Apostles of the Lord Jesus did mighty signs and wonders through the Name of Jesus. Peter, for instance, did some extraordinary signs and wonders through the Name of the Lord, as recorded in Act 5:15, “As a result, people brought the sick into the streets and laid them on beds and mats so that at least Peter’s shadow might fall on some of them as he passed by.”

If a believer waits and gazes on the Lord with unwavering faith, mighty things that are uncommon to discuss in everyday matters will definitely take place. Imagine a hunchback suddenly disappearing from a person during prayers. Can you imagine how the reactions of a Church Congregant would be when almost immediately in prayers, a man with one amputated leg receives this leg back? The whole Church may lie face down to worship the Lord who does such spectacular miracles. O God, let these happen also in our days!

CONCLUSION

In conclusion, every believer in Christ must catch this revelation so that it wouldn’t matter the bigness of the problem we bring to the feet of Christ in prayer; we only need to lift up our faith to him. As to how or when the Miracle Worker Jesus will do it will rest on him; whether silently, swiftly, strongly, or spectacularly. May the Lord Jesus Christ touch you even now in these four dimensions. Amen.

Written by Pastor Rexford Osei Kwame (Sefwi Kwamebikrom District, Essam-Debiso Area)

In every action or decision we make, there lies a reason—an underlying cause that may be good or bad, yet there is always a purpose. It is a universal truth that everyone grapples with individual struggles, and the Bible provides a precedent for this in the revelation made by the Apostle Paul in 2 Corinthians 12.

Paul candidly disclosed the battle with a weakness he called the “thorn in his flesh,” which he sought relief from through fervent prayer. Three times he pleaded with the Lord to remove it, but the response he received was profound: “My grace is sufficient for you.” This revelation emphasised the concept that even in weakness, there exists an ample measure of divine grace. However, what often goes unnoticed is Paul’s relentless prayer and discontentment with this weakness, revealing a constant striving for improvement.

Regrettably, this critical point is frequently overlooked in today’s body of Christ. When a fellow brother or sister is battling with a weakness, it should not become grounds for exclusion. Often, the efforts invested in overcoming these struggles remain unseen, much like Paul’s thorn in the flesh, intended to serve as a humbling reminder. This is precisely the juncture at which fellow believers must draw closer, extending a hand of love and support.

It is crucial to recognise that the pain or hurt caused us by the weaknesses of others should not lead to condemnation and rejection. Just as Paul’s thorn served a purpose, the weaknesses of our brethren can be transformative, leading to growth and spiritual maturity. Unfortunately, many have stumbled in the faith because instead of the church showing love and compassion during their lowest moments, we sometimes have responded with accusations and judgment.

As we seek to possess our spheres for the Lord, let us intentionally cultivate an environment of genuine love and care for those dealing with their thorns. Rather than aligning ourselves with the world in chastisement, it is time to intercede on their behalf, praying for God’s transformative touch. In doing so, we extend a helping hand rather than an accusing one, fostering an atmosphere where love abounds and spiritual restoration flourishes. Let us show love even in the valley.

In conclusion, this write-up serves as a reminder of the need for compassion within the Church. It encourages believers to offer support, understanding, and intercession for those navigating their personal struggles. By doing so, we emulate the boundless love exemplified by our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, creating a haven where individuals find solace, healing, and the transformative power of divine love. #Selah

Written by Simon Nyarko Teye (District Youth Leader, Danquah Worship Centre)

INTRODUCTION

Marriage is a sacred institution, a union of two souls—male and female—bound by love and commitment. However, as beautiful as it is, marriage requires constant effort and dedication to thrive. It is a journey that often demands working through challenges, conflicts, and personal growth. The truth is that great marriages do not happen by accident but through hard work, determination, and commitment. Robert C. Dodds, a British artist, has said that “the goal of marriage is not to think alike, but to think together and make it better.” This article explores the concept of working out your marriage with fear and trembling, providing some factors for nurturing a strong and lasting marriage.

UNDERSTANDING THE SIGNIFICANCE OF FEAR AND TREMBLING

The phrase “fear and trembling” may seem to contradict the concept of a loving and harmonious marriage. However, this phrase, borrowed from the biblical text, Philippians 2:12 NKJV, “Therefore, my beloved, as you have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling,” serves as a metaphorical reminder of the seriousness and reverence that marriage demands. Just as one approaches matters of faith with sincere reverence, so too should we approach our marriage vows, recognising the weight of our commitments and the consequent responsibility to work diligently on our relationships.

Understanding the significance of fear and trembling is crucial for personal growth and self-discovery. When we confront our fears and embrace our vulnerabilities, we open ourselves up to the transformative experiences and profound insights that go into building and sustaining our marital relationships. Fear and trembling often accompany moments of growth and change. Stepping outside our comfort zone and facing our fears is necessary to evolve as individuals. It challenges us to confront our limitations, push boundaries, and discover new possibilities.

Fear and trembling can lead to greater self-awareness and introspection. When we acknowledge and examine our fears, we gain a deeper understanding of ourselves, our motivations, and our aspirations. This self-awareness helps us make more conscious choices and align our actions with our values. By embracing these emotions, we can work on overcoming our fears and breaking free from self-imposed barriers. This process allows us to reach our full potential and achieve personal growth and success.

Understanding this concept can also strip away the masks we wear and expose our true selves. By embracing vulnerability, we foster authentic connections with ourselves and spouses as well as those we come into contact with. Being authentic allows one to build trust, intimacy, and deeper relationships, enhancing our overall well-being.

FACTORS TO CONSIDER ON WORKING OUT OUR MARRIAGES

The truth is that God-ordained marriage involves spiritual, emotional, and physical closeness. In the Old Testament, we are taught, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). Married couples are meant to be unified in every possible way. God-ordained marriage is for enjoyment, not endurance. Unfortunately, some are enduring it instead of enjoying it. Many marriages have collapsed, and others are on the verge of collapsing because couples are unable to understand and comply with basic principles that go with it. Below are some factors to help one work out his or her marriage irrespective of its current state.

1. CULTIVATING SELF-AWARENESS:

Cultivating self-awareness in marriage is an essential aspect of building a strong and healthy relationship. The foundation for working out a marriage starts with cultivating self-awareness. Dolly Parton says, “Find out who you are and do it on purpose.” Understanding oneself allows for a better understanding of your partner’s needs, desires, and vulnerabilities. Take time for introspection, reflecting on your values, emotional triggers, and communication styles. Recognise that personal growth is an ongoing process that impacts the dynamics within a marriage. Cultivating self-awareness is a fundamental aspect of personal growth and development.

This self-reflection can help you communicate your feelings more effectively and prevent unnecessary conflicts. Cultivate the habit of being present in the moment and paying attention to your thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations without judgment. This can help you become more aware of your patterns and reactions within your marriage. Also, ask your partner for honest feedback on your strengths and weaknesses. This can provide valuable insights into areas that need improvement or where you may be unaware of certain behaviours or patterns that impact your marriage.

Reflect on your actions, reactions, and decisions, and consider how they may have influenced your marriage dynamics. Furthermore, developing empathy for yourself and your partner is crucial in fostering self-awareness in marriage. Put yourself in your spouse’s shoes and try to understand his or her perspective, feelings, and needs. This can help you recognise how your actions or behaviours impact him or her and create a space for open and compassionate communion.

• DEVELOP GOOD COMMUNICATION SKILLS:

Communication is a vital element in any marriage. Elizabeth Bougeret says, “Communication is the lifeline of any relationship.” Effective communication can foster intimacy, trust, and understanding between partners, while poor communication can lead to misunderstandings, conflicts, and a breakdown of the relationship.

To be able to work at it, one has to practice active listening by giving your full attention to your partner when he or she is speaking. Show interest, maintain eye contact, and avoid unnecessary interruptions. Reflect back on what your partner has said to ensure you understand his or her perspective accurately. Also, learn to encourage open and honest communication by creating a safe and non-judgmental space for sharing. Be transparent about your thoughts, feelings, needs, and concerns, and encourage your partner to do the same. Express yourself in a constructive and respectful manner.

Pay attention to non-verbal cues such as body language, tone of voice, and facial expressions. These can often convey more than words alone. Be aware of your own non-verbal communication and strive for consistency between your verbal and non-verbal messages. Try to put yourself in your partner’s shoes and see things from his or her perspective. Practice empathy and strive to understand his/her feelings and needs. Validate your spouse’s emotions even if you may not agree with him or her. This can help foster a deeper connection and reduce defensiveness.

Set aside dedicated time for communication in your marriage. This could be through regular check-ins, weekly meetings, or date nights where you can focus on one another. Create an environment free from distractions, such as phones or television or carrying office work to the home when your spouse needs your attention, to ensure meaningful conversations. Remember, effective communication is a skill that requires practice and effort from both partners. By prioritising communication and continually working on it, you can build a strong foundation for a healthy and fulfilling marriage.

• NURTURING LOVE, RESPECT, AND TRUST:

Nurturing love, respect, and trust in a marriage is crucial for the long-term happiness and success of the relationship. According to Mignon McLaughlin, an American author, “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times and always with the same person.” Learn to express your love for your partner regularly through words, gestures, and physical affection. Small acts of kindness, such as a loving touch or a heartfelt compliment, can go a long way in making your partner feel valued and cared for.

Take the time to appreciate and acknowledge your partner’s positive qualities, efforts, and contributions. Expressing gratitude and recognising their value in your life helps strengthen the bond between you. Be open and honest with your partner, sharing your thoughts, fears, and desires. Avoid criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling, and instead, strive for understanding and empathy. Treat your partner with kindness, courtesy, and respect in all aspects of your interaction.

Avoid belittling or demeaning behaviours, and be mindful of the impact your words and actions have on your partner’s self-esteem. Encourage and support each other’s goals and aspirations. Trust is built over time through consistent behaviour and reliability. As much as possible, make every effort to keep your promises and commitments, and be there for your partner in times of need. Trust is fragile and takes time to develop, so prioritise actions that promote trustworthiness.

Show appreciation for boundaries and personal space: Respect your partner’s need for personal time and space. Encourage him or her to pursue his or her own hobbies, interests, and friendships. Giving each other space fosters independence and allows for personal growth, which can strengthen the relationship. Justin Wetch says, “Love starts as a feeling, but to continue is a choice.” Remember, building love, respect, and trust in a marriage is also an ongoing process that requires effort and commitment from both partners.

• CULTIVATING THE HABIT OF FORGIVENESS:

Forgiveness in marriage is an essential component of maintaining a healthy and strong relationship. It involves letting go of resentment, anger, and hurt caused by your partner’s actions or mistakes. Couples ought to understand the importance of forgiveness. Dave Meuer once said, “A great marriage is not when ‘perfect couples’ come together; instead, it is when imperfect couples learn to enjoy their differences.”

Forgiving your partner allows you to move forward and rebuild trust in the relationship. Holding onto grudges can create a toxic environment and hinder the growth and progress of the marriage. Talk to your partner about the issue that caused the hurt or pain. Share your feelings and concerns, and allow him or her to express his or her sentiments. Try to understand your partner’s intentions, motivations, and circumstances surrounding their actions. Empathy and compassion can help you develop a deeper understanding and make it easier to forgive.

While your partner may have caused you pain, it’s essential to recognise and take responsibility for your emotions. Understand that forgiveness is a choice you make for your own well-being when you allow yourself to let go of negative emotions and move forward. Forgiveness is a process that takes time. Healing wounds and rebuilding trust don’t happen overnight. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting or condoning the behaviour that caused the pain. It means giving your partner a chance to earn back your trust. This can be achieved through consistent, reliable, and trustworthy behaviour over time. If the hurt or betrayal is significant, seeking the assistance of a qualified godly marriage counsellor can be beneficial. They can guide you and your partner through the forgiveness process and help you both heal and rebuild your relationship.

• CULTIVATE A GOOD SEXUAL LIFE:

Sex plays a key and vital role in marriage. God made sex for marriage, so couples must work hard to ensure they enjoy their sexual life. Sex in marriage is a way to experience physical pleasure and intimacy with one’s spouse, viewed as a natural and healthy expression of love and desire between spouses. It fosters emotional connection and bonding, deepening the overall connection between partners. Sex is also a means to procreate and build a family together, providing a source of entertainment for the couple. Couples must ensure they enjoy their sexual life to its fullest to prevent seeking enjoyment outside the walls of the marriage.

Sex serves as a form of communication within a marriage, allowing partners to express their love and desire for each other. It can also address conflicts, maintaining a strong and healthy relationship. Moreover, sex is a pleasurable and stress-relieving activity, providing a break from the day-to-day pressures of life. It allows couples to unwind, reconnect, and find solace in each other’s presence.

• BUILDING ON CHRIST, THE SOLID ROCK:

In working out your marriage, couples must learn to build their marriages on Christ, who is our firm foundation and the solid rock. “A cord of three strands cannot be easily broken” (Eccl. 4:12 NIV). Building your marriage on God involves making Him the foundation and center of the relationship. Couples must involve God in the decision-making process, seeking His wisdom and guidance when making important choices.

Always ask God to direct your steps and align your hearts with His will. Couples must make studying and applying the Bible a priority in their marriages, applying biblical principles and teachings to their relationship daily. Regularly praying together as a couple is essential, as couples who pray together stay together. Pray for each other’s needs, desires, and challenges, seeking God’s help and intervention in your marriage.

Praying together strengthens your connection with God and with each other. Avoid leaving your partner behind during Bible studies and prayer time. Cultivate the habit of holding hands together, as this helps build your faith in God. Attend church services together and engage in corporate worship, as worshiping God as a couple can deepen your spiritual bond and remind you of His presence and importance in your lives.

Find ways to serve God together as a couple in your own capacity, such as volunteering in church ministries or engaging in community service. Serving together builds teamwork, unity, and a shared sense of purpose between couples.

CONCLUSION

Working out your marriage with fear and trembling requires perseverance, commitment, and determination. It is a continuous journey of self-discovery, growth, and nurturing the bond with your partner. By cultivating self-awareness, communicating effectively, nurturing love and trust, cultivating the habit of forgiveness by addressing conflicts constructively, promoting a good sexual life, and, above all, making Christ the foundation of your marriage, you can build a strong and lasting relationship.

Remember, a successful marriage is a testament to the power of love, resilience, and the belief that together, you can overcome any obstacle. Never forget that your marriage has the power to determine where you will spend eternity, be it heaven or hell. Hence, the need to work at it with all fear and trembling.

Report by Pastor Prince Augustine Ababio (Jema Nkwanta District, Kintampo Area)